Jia Tolentino

The world is beautifully and uncomfortably and terrifyingly ungovernable. Life is not something that we can just Apple watch and pregnancy tracker our way into whatever counts as a successful outcome. There’s this idea that in the old economy bosses had to exploit the workers, but now we happily self-exploit. We happily submit ourselves to surveillance. And with pregnancy, it felt important to recognize that the experience would be better and perhaps safer if I didn’t track it relentlessly.

-Jia Tolentino, episode 399 of Talk Easy with Sam Fragoso

Writer Jia Tolentino (The New Yorker) became a literary sensation in 2019 upon the release of her best-selling essay collection, Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self-Delusion. She joins us this week to ring in 2025.

We start by discussing the erosion of privacy online (11:26), the potentially forthcoming TikTok ban (13:32), and how she circumvented self-surveillance technology in her Hidden Pregnancy Experiment for The New Yorker (15:28). Then, we unpack how data is monetized online (18:00), as depicted in an unsettling scene from Succession (21:50), the harmful effects of screen time on children (26:10), and her writerly upbringing in Houston (31:48).

On the back-half, Jia recounts a formative summer in Venice (41:55), her subsequent decade working at The Hairpin and Jezebel (50:43), the trad wife phenomenon (55:00), how she swings between pessimism and optimism (1:12:19), and why writing still retains the power to liberate (1:17:00).

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Illustrations by Krishna ShenoiReference photograph by Elena Mudd.

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